Forgive

Do you wake up in the mornings and say to your self, "Self, why don't you just hurt someone today". Of course you don't.

My motives are actually pure. I try to be nice to strangers, helpful to most and close to a few. However, no matter how you slice the pie someone is ALWAYS going to get hurt.

I'm not talking about petty feelings. I am talking about real bonifide pain.

I have done that. I have hurt some people. And, no matter what I do or say it will take the Holy Spirt to help me and them.

The trap is turning someone Else's forgiveness onto your self and vicariously living through their unforgiven. I call it "reverse debt." In other words, we try to pay for someone Else's debt by beating ourselves up because we caused them pain.

It does NOT mean that we just grow numb to anothers feelings, it does mean however, that we must allow ourselves to be released after we speak and ask for forgiveness from our heart.

I had to do this the other day. I walked up to them at the door. I said "can we talk" They said no, not now. I tried to use that as my way out. God would redirect my paths. I would run into the one who offend me and told them I forgive them. Wow, it was tough.

Then came the toughest part, I asked the to forgive me. (even though I felt I was justified in my actions years ago.

Pride is hard. It is very hard. one writer said this,

"To know a man, observe how he wins his object, rather than how he loses it; for when we fail our pride supports us; when we succeed, it betrays us." - Charles Caleb Colton


Forgive and process through today.

Let it go and be free.

Trust me, its worth it.

Just a Thought.....